Unity: A Key To Marital Bliss (团结:婚姻幸福的钥匙)


Conflict hurts. Why can’t we agree on anything? He is so independent. She doesn’t listen to me. Come to our Friday night marital workshop and learn how to grow your relationship. (Bi-lingual with English and Mandarin)

Date: 17 February, 2017
Time: 8pm
Venue: Central Christian Church Johor, 16A & 16B Jalan Sutera Tanjung 8/3, Taman Sutera Utama, 81300 Skudai, Johor Baru, Malaysia.

For more info:
Kalmen Chia  +60167737850,
Tan Huey Sim  +60167727850

Inspiring Quotes, Lessons

Caring Confrontation Heals

Proverbs 27:5 “Better is open rebuke than hidden love.”

silent-treatment-jpg-653x0_q80_crop-smartNot talking about strong feelings doesn’t make them go away; in fact, they become more pronounced in our attempts to live as though they don’t exist. The two people in this kind of relationship try to get along by skirting issues, their emotions, and ultimately their deep love for each other, and they end up with a shell of a relationship. (Quote from Cloud and Townsend).

Let us learn to have caring confrontation and emphatic conversation in your marriage, parenting, and friendships, so that your relationships can heal, grow, and be even more intimate. Relationships can heal.

Lessons, Uncategorized

Time Heals All?

2685812402_c7f3626dfa_zPhilippians 2:12-13. Therefore, my dear friends, as you have always obeyed—not only in my presence, but now much more in my absence—continue to work out your salvation with fear and trembling, for it is God who works in you to will and to act in order to fulfill his good purpose.

There is a saying, “Time heals all.” Time doesn’t heal all. It heals some but buries most. As it states in the verse above, we must actively work out our issues as in doing physical therapy for an injury. The word salvation in this verse could mean both salvation as in going to heaven or ‘salvation’ as in healing from our life’s hurts and problems. God saves us not only for our future glorious eternal life, but He also saves us in this present life on earth by healing in our minds and hearts.

When physical injuries come, to heal completely we need physical therapy. Leaving the injury alone, we will not fully heal. Instead, it will only result in stiffening the joints and muscles. When emotional injuries happen, to heal we too must have emotional growth therapy and resolve the internal conflicts. If not, our emotional “joints and muscles” will stiffen and it will be even more painful when we need to use those emotional “joints and muscles” in the future. This emotional stiffening could be a reason why some find it harder to face anxieties, worries, fears, anger, sadness, and other unpleasant emotions. By avoiding, burying, or over-controlling these feelings and emotional pains, rather than resolving them, we make them inflexible. Thus, the pain remains.

Some ideas for our emotional workout for healing:

  • Be willing to have the pain. Let go of the struggle to avoid or control your pain.
  • Have a healthy emotional diet of daily bible study and prayer. Let God heal your heart.
  • Find a safe group that you can feel loved and accepted in, where you can be vulnerable about your pain. We need healthy relationships to help us heal.
  • Have a weekly routine to get the emotional help you need.
  • Have a spiritual mentor who can guide you through this process.
  • Don’t rush the process. This is where time comes in. We need to let time along with your active growth work heal your heart.


To listen – Audio link: https://archive.org/details/TimeHealsAll .

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Emotional Honesty Workshop


Conflicts happen. Misunderstandings occur. Situations that trigger our painful emotions arise. Unfortunately, we as human beings tend to do things to control or avoid facing these emotional situations. We get angry. We comply unwillingly. We detach and sooth ourselves with harmful behaviours. We avoid dealing with our conflicts in fear of more conflicts. As a result, we end up exasperating ourselves more and add more frustration in our relationships with others.

This Emotional Honesty Workshop will teach us how to be vulnerable with ourselves and others so that we can reduce conflicts, draw closer, and be more honest with those who are important to us in life.


Listen To Your Pain

Psalms 139:23 Search me, O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts!

Listen To Your Pain

When you feel emotional pain, it is because you care. We do not hurt about things or people that are not important to us. So when you do things to shut down or avoid your pain, you will slowly shut down what your heart desires. Take a moment, and listen to your pain. What is it telling you that you desire? Listen to it carefully or you might miss something important for you.