Coffee Moments, Leadership, Relationship

Of Love and Leadership: Velvet Brick

Of Love and Leadership: Velvet Brick. Lesson on how to be tough and tender in our relationships, communication, and leadership.

爱和领导力的。天鹅绒砖。关于如何在我们的人际关系、沟通和领导力中做到刚柔并济的课程。(自动翻译)

Further Questions and Verses for Digging Deeper into this topic:
Velvet Brick: Group Bible Study
Which personalities are you more like? You can have more than one personality type. Explain your choice.
• Bulldozer
• Doormat
• Invisible man
• Thorn bushes
• Mr. Make everyone happy

In each of these 5 situations, which category are you more like, explain your answer?
• In relationships: Principled / Warm
• In conflicts: Forthright/ Kind and merciful
• In setting directions: Clear rational/ Compassion and patience
• In teaching others: Practical/ Patient
• In priorities: Disciplined/ Flexible

Digging Deeper Into The Word
Read Colossians 4:5-6; 1 Thessalonians 5:12-16; and Ephesians 4:25-32
• In each of these verses, identify which part is velvet and which part is brick.
• For each of these verses, how can you make it practical for yourself?
• As you devise these practical steps for yourself, what could be some obstacles, fears, and tension that arises for you?
• How can you overcome these obstacles?

Inspiring Quotes, Lessons

Your Presence and Guidance Matters

“For lack of guidance a nation falls, but many advisers make victory sure.” Proverbs 11:14
 
Have you ever felt that your leadership does not matter? Have you ever wondered if mentoring is important? Have you questioned yourself if it is a waste of time guiding others and providing a safe group for them to talk. After all, your mind tells you that people grow by themselves. It is the individual that makes the effort to grow.
 
So wrong! Your presence does matter. Yes, it is up to the individual to make his own effort to grow. But every individual will eventually hit his limit. There is only so much one person can do. But when you add in a mentor, a coach, a leader, a facilitator, and a safe group, something happens. Relational energy transpires. We see it in sports: A talented athlete breaks through his personal barriers through the training of his coach. We see it in schools: an underachieving student excels through the support of his teacher. We see it in business: a company’s profit goes up with a synergised team.
 
Your presence and Godly leadership with your group is crucial for growth. Additionally, the participation of your members as safe advisers to each other further fuels one another’s growth.
 
As the scripture says, “…many advisers make victory sure.” Take it from the greatest Mentor of all. Your presence matters.
 
by TML

 

Lessons

Of Sticks and Giants

goliathHe said to David, “Am I a dog, that you come at me with sticks?” And the Philistine cursed David by his gods. (1 Samuel 17:43)

I started to read a book given to me, “David and Goliath” by Malcolm Gladwell. Great book with illuminative insights on how to overcome giants with sticks. Even from the beginning, chapter one is filled with insights –

Goliath is not always the giant he seems to be. He too has his weak spots. Use your strengths, exploit his weaknesses, have the courage to fight differently, forget the standardized methods, and most importantly- have attitude. Even giants can fall. People might laugh at your unorthodox methods. Using sticks to fight giants is unorthodox. Yet sticks overcame the giant, Goliath.

What are your Goliaths, standing tall and seemingly terrifyingly against your life? Remember, they are not always the giants that they seem to be. If used well, sticks can overcome giants.

By tml

Lessons

The Needs of The People

My thoughts about leadership (this is not my political views or about politics):

Trump won the election. Many people felt shocked and amazed. I too am amazed. The future will only tell what Trump will do in America – good or bad. But I asked myself, “Is there something to be learned from this shocking news about what people want in leadership, which could apply to us.” Why did the US people choose Trump with all his character flaws?

In the many theories that the experts put forward, one stood out the most. It speaks of the heart and emotional needs of the people.

  • “Trump listened to the American people, the working class.”
  • “He remembered the forgotten men and women of America, the working class.”
  • “The Democrats and the left “have given up/abandoned/lost touch with the working class.”

cambodia-angkor-temple-historically-161114Is there something we can learn as we lead our churches? Are we in touch with our “working class” people and their needs in our churches? Do they feel listened to, cared for, and loved? Do we hear their pain? Or are we, like the Democrats, think we are meeting their needs, or assumed they are fine when they are actually hurting inside.

This is something to ponder – the needs of the “working class” as Paul wrote in 1 Corinthians 12:21-16 – the parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, and on those parts of the body that we think less honourable we bestow the greater honour.

There is a danger of being too busy and not being able to hear the voice of the “working class” in our churches. If we slow down just for a moment, have a meal with them like Jesus, perhaps just perhaps we will see something different that we have never seen before.

By TML