Lessons, marriage

Keys To A Great Relationship and Marriage

adult-affection-beard-842546A good relationship is not based on “chemistry” or infatuation or “feeling good”. Rather it is based on love put into actions. Here are three keys to a good relationship:

  1. Learn to meet the other person’s core emotional needs according to the way the other person needs it, and not according to how we think the other person’s needs should be met. Acts 20:35 says it is more blessed to give than to receive.
  2. Resolve all conflicts with gentleness, calmness, and love even when it is hard and painful. Anger adds on a secondary fuel to further ignite the pain of the conflict. Resolve them quickly by learning to speak the truth in love with kindness. Unresolved conflicts leave roots of bitterness, which becomes the seed of falling out of love. Ephesians 4:25-27 shows us a clue to Satan’s sword, which is bitterness. Bitterness is the tool that Satan uses to slowly poison our hearts with hidden hurts that eventually destroy loving relationships.
  3. Deal with our own sins, schemas, fears, and guilt, which hinders us from the willingness to give love by meeting the other core emotional needs, and to resolve conflicts and hurts in our hearts. Avoidance to repent of our own issues is the all too easy way to escape from temporary pain. This avoidance, however, leads to regrets which doubles up our pain in the long run. Romans 7:14-25 says that it is so hard for us to be willing to change even when we want to. Only through Christ and obeying His words can we be truly free from this bondage of sin and shame.

by tml

Event

JB Church CNY Reunion Dinner and Fun 2018

CNY. Our Church in Johor Baru had a great community reunion dinner and fun.

Posted by Central Christian Church Of Malaysia – Johor on Thursday, March 8, 2018

Chinese New Year is a time for family, food, and fun. Our church had our very own gathering. The atmosphere was full of joy and love. Truly, we want to be a church that loves one another.

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Inspiring Quotes, Lessons

Your Presence and Guidance Matters

“For lack of guidance a nation falls, but many advisers make victory sure.” Proverbs 11:14
 
Have you ever felt that your leadership does not matter? Have you ever wondered if mentoring is important? Have you questioned yourself if it is a waste of time guiding others and providing a safe group for them to talk. After all, your mind tells you that people grow by themselves. It is the individual that makes the effort to grow.
 
So wrong! Your presence does matter. Yes, it is up to the individual to make his own effort to grow. But every individual will eventually hit his limit. There is only so much one person can do. But when you add in a mentor, a coach, a leader, a facilitator, and a safe group, something happens. Relational energy transpires. We see it in sports: A talented athlete breaks through his personal barriers through the training of his coach. We see it in schools: an underachieving student excels through the support of his teacher. We see it in business: a company’s profit goes up with a synergised team.
 
Your presence and Godly leadership with your group is crucial for growth. Additionally, the participation of your members as safe advisers to each other further fuels one another’s growth.
 
As the scripture says, “…many advisers make victory sure.” Take it from the greatest Mentor of all. Your presence matters.
 
by TML