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Time Heals All?

2685812402_c7f3626dfa_zPhilippians 2:12-13. Therefore, my dear friends, as you have always obeyed—not only in my presence, but now much more in my absence—continue to work out your salvation with fear and trembling, for it is God who works in you to will and to act in order to fulfill his good purpose.

There is a saying, “Time heals all.” Time doesn’t heal all. It heals some but buries most. As it states in the verse above, we must actively work out our issues as in doing physical therapy for an injury. The word salvation in this verse could mean both salvation as in going to heaven or ‘salvation’ as in healing from our life’s hurts and problems. God saves us not only for our future glorious eternal life, but He also saves us in this present life on earth by healing in our minds and hearts.

When physical injuries come, to heal completely we need physical therapy. Leaving the injury alone, we will not fully heal. Instead, it will only result in stiffening the joints and muscles. When emotional injuries happen, to heal we too must have emotional growth therapy and resolve the internal conflicts. If not, our emotional “joints and muscles” will stiffen and it will be even more painful when we need to use those emotional “joints and muscles” in the future. This emotional stiffening could be a reason why some find it harder to face anxieties, worries, fears, anger, sadness, and other unpleasant emotions. By avoiding, burying, or over-controlling these feelings and emotional pains, rather than resolving them, we make them inflexible. Thus, the pain remains.

Some ideas for our emotional workout for healing:

  • Be willing to have the pain. Let go of the struggle to avoid or control your pain.
  • Have a healthy emotional diet of daily bible study and prayer. Let God heal your heart.
  • Find a safe group that you can feel loved and accepted in, where you can be vulnerable about your pain. We need healthy relationships to help us heal.
  • Have a weekly routine to get the emotional help you need.
  • Have a spiritual mentor who can guide you through this process.
  • Don’t rush the process. This is where time comes in. We need to let time along with your active growth work heal your heart.

By TML

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The Needs of The People

My thoughts about leadership (this is not my political views or about politics):

Trump won the election. Many people felt shocked and amazed. I too am amazed. The future will only tell what Trump will do in America – good or bad. But I asked myself, “Is there something to be learned from this shocking news about what people want in leadership, which could apply to us.” Why did the US people choose Trump with all his character flaws?

In the many theories that the experts put forward, one stood out the most. It speaks of the heart and emotional needs of the people.

  • “Trump listened to the American people, the working class.”
  • “He remembered the forgotten men and women of America, the working class.”
  • “The Democrats and the left “have given up/abandoned/lost touch with the working class.”

cambodia-angkor-temple-historically-161114Is there something we can learn as we lead our churches? Are we in touch with our “working class” people and their needs in our churches? Do they feel listened to, cared for, and loved? Do we hear their pain? Or are we, like the Democrats, think we are meeting their needs, or assumed they are fine when they are actually hurting inside.

This is something to ponder – the needs of the “working class” as Paul wrote in 1 Corinthians 12:21-16 – the parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, and on those parts of the body that we think less honourable we bestow the greater honour.

There is a danger of being too busy and not being able to hear the voice of the “working class” in our churches. If we slow down just for a moment, have a meal with them like Jesus, perhaps just perhaps we will see something different that we have never seen before.

By TML

 

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Grief is a gift from God to heal our hearts

Ecclesiastes 7:3-4
3 Sorrow is better than laughter,
For when a face is sad a heart may be happy.
4 The mind of the wise is in the house of mourning.
While the mind of fools is in the house of pleasure. (NASB)

22994335Tears have the power to mend our afflicted heart. The healing power  comes not when we are in tears by ourselves, but when we are in sorrow in the comfort of others. Notice that the tear duct is located in the eye. Not anywhere else but the eye. Our eyes are meant for seeing. And when we grieve, we need to see someone else’s eyes. The other eyes that grieves with us. The other eyes that understand our sorrow. The other eyes that reflect tenderness in our time of weakness.

And when you grieve, who will you let into that grief, that tender moment of pain and sadness?

By TML